The Virtuous Pre-Wife, Part 1

Often women of my generation are looked down upon by society for our decision to become stay at home wives. Society wonders why we do this and how could we bring down years of social improvement, years of women’s rights, all for the sake of taking care of our family. They consider us out of date and dunce because we’d rather take care of others than take care of ourselves.

My purpose is to show that the Bible does not promote a helpless and powerless women, rather strong women who can nurture and take care of a family. Homemakers choose to sacrifice their own life to take care of others. However, this does not make us dolls who are controlled by men, rather supporters of our men. Not only spiritual but with our work.

I am writing this to the girls who are patiently waiting on the Lord, those who are not married and using this time to grow individually. I myself am waiting on the Lord, and boy has he taught me patience! I want to encourage women like me to start preparing to be a wife and homemaker.

Though I am not married yet, I do know I want to be like the Proverbs 31 woman. This section always stuck with me “She considers a field and buys it: from her profits she plants a vineyard.” Proverbs 31:16

This may seem like a strange verse to pick out of the chapter, however, it shows her financial smarts. Too often the stereotype for the homemaker is a women who helplessly has no control of the assets. However, this Proverbs 31 women uses her money to invest, to help increase her family’s funds. Now we might all not want to go out and buy a field and grow grapes, but this could mean our talents. What are your skills? Mine happens to be teaching and playing music. While we wait upon the Lord to bring us a husband, we need to learn to work hard, make money. I am currently learning now to build a business, how to take care of finances, how to promote my own business. Too often girls who choose to be homemakers do not work because they are waiting for a man. But this is not what our future husband is looking for, he wants a woman who can take care of herself. If we can’t take care of ourselves, how do you expect to take care of others? Along with our future husband, God does not want us to sit around either. The Lord does not say wait idly by, but to do something! If you cannot work, then volunteer in the Church, grow a garden, take classes at your local college. Don’t sit idly by and watch the World leave you behind.

We are not doing this to impress a man, but to make our God happy. Our heavenly Father lovingly gave each of us a skill, and He does not want us to waste it. Invest in your own life. Invest in your skills. Use this time of singleness wisely and do not feel sorry for yourself because someone else got married and you didn’t. Each of us have our own path to follow, and rather than feeling sorry for ourselves we need to start being productive!

Don't sit in your dark room, watch hours of Netflix, and dwell on all your problems, but start learning how to be the Proverbs 31 woman.

Nancy Jane